Thursday, December 24, 2020

Wishing you a "Missy" Christmas

This year I sent out my Christmas cards with this picture of Missy.  It is one of our favorite pictures of her!  How do you not smile when you see this?

This little dog is just chock full of sass and spunk. She brings joy to everyone she meets.  Literally.  She brings joy.  I can not walk her in our neighborhood without at least one person stopping us to pet, well, more accurately, rub her belly. 

As soon as Missy spies someone, she is pulling on the leash with her back-end wiggling with delight towards the neighbor, UPS carrier, the lawn guy, the water meter reader etc... Missy LOVES everyone.  Everyone.  This little gal LOVES everyone she meets. 

Before we approach, I always ask the person if it is okay for Missy to come see them.  I have yet to have someone say "No".  It's true, no one seems able to refuse her and her gift of friendship. 

Perhaps they see the pure joy in her and her eagerness to spread it to them.  Perhaps, like me, they are dog people and will seize every opportunity to pet and love on a dog.  Whatever the reason, Missy gets love and the receiver gets a smile.  It's a win-win for everyone!

I included this picture in our cards, because, well, you know 2020 and all.  It was a year like no other.  I included this picture because it was our way of sending you joy.  It was our way of saying: We can do this. We can all put on our green bow tie, smile and spread joy as we head into 2021.  

Wishing you and all you love and hold dear a Merry Christmas and a blessed 2021.

Bill, Janet and of course, Missy Alden 



Wednesday, December 23, 2020

It's in the Details

My brother-in-law, Gary Guimond, besides being one of my favorite people, is an exceptional woodworker.  He is Bill's youngest brother and there is 11 years between them.  Bill, Rick, Robert and Gary are Betty's boys through and through.  They all have the strong ethic and character taught through a strong mother and woman.  

As I said, Gary is an exceptionally skilled woodworker.  He has always had an area in his house where he could work on projects for his home and for others.  He never did it professionally, but his work shows the skill and the care of a professional.

Gary and Carol moved to Lyman, SC in 2013, shortly after we did.  The home that they purchased had a large garage which was soon expanded to create a full woodshop for Gary. It wasn't long before he was fully operational and he began working on pieces for their home. 

He soon started working on small pieces; toys, cars, dogs, crickets, spinners, ping pong shooters and little pull toys. At first glance, so simple, yet so perfectly crafted, so exceptionally finished. Carol and Gary were going to do the Farmer's Market and events that occur almost every weekend here is the Upstate of South Carolina.  

We have been at the shows where Carol and Gary set up a booth, and it is always so well stocked and displayed.  Gary's "job" was production and Carol's was "marketing" and they both did their job perfectly.   
There were always children at their booth.  In a world where every toy is made to make noise and engage a child with a screen, there is no greater pleasure than witnessing the wonder of a child with a simple wooden toy.  

The spinners Gary creates are always so popular too.  At the face of them, you don't take into consideration the level of work they require. It isn't until you looked further at the perfectly cut pieces, the precision of all the edges and the careful painting that you recognize and appreciate Gary's skill. This is typical of Gary.  He puts so much attention into the details.  

Visits to their home usually involved a trip out to the woodshop to see Gary's latest creations.  A stop in the shop always delighted the senses.  To see all the various stages of work. To smell all the fresh cut wood and to feel the sawdust under foot. Gary works very precisely, and the shop is organized with all the different stages of production.  I always walked away amazed.  He works efficiently, as one who pays attention to detail.  It is evident everywhere in that shop. 

Gary is not one to boost or brag.  He does good work, excellent work, but when you point it out to him, he waves it aside.  He's uncomfortable with the attention on himself, with the praise for his skill.  He is aware of his skill, but he doesn't enjoy the spotlight on himself.  It's much more than that for him; he does what he does because he enjoys it.  He does what he does because he has a giving heart. 

After doing the shows for years, Carol and Gary have a routine and have developed steady customers. Their booth is always a favorite and they do very well wherever they go.  

At the shows, Gary is the 'muscle'.  He unloads the tubs and toys and Carol sets up the display.  After the booth was set up, Gary tried to fade into the background.  Carol was the saleswoman and Gary is there at the end of the day to help load up the truck - he didn't need any more than that.  He was more comfortable having Carol interact with the customers.  But I've been to the shows, Gary doesn't fade into the background, Carol will not allow that.  Carol is quick to point out the master of the toys and he always appreciates and thanks the compliments.  

It was during one of the shows that they met Amy Moore.  Amy is the owner and craftswoman behind Inglenook & Co.  Amy started out making handmade soaps and quickly ventured out to candles, men's products and whimsical handmade items.  Gary started making wooden soap dishes for Amy, and over the course of four years, he has supplied her with more than 1,000 dishes.  Amy was so pleased with his work that she asked him to design and create a wooden cart that she can use for her shows.  It needed to be sturdy, practical and able to be moved easily.  It also needed to be attractive because after it was used to haul the supplies, she would use it for display.  Not an easy task, but she went to the right man.  Gary created that first cart for her and then went on to create three more for her.  I've seen the carts. They are perfect from the wood he chose, the corners, the durability and the finished surface. Gary's skill is evident in every inch of his work. 

In addition to the woodworking, Gary loves working in their yard.  They have both created a wonderful oasis of vegetable, fruit trees and flowers.  Sprinkled in are bird baths, bird feeders, whimsical metal art and fountains.  A visit to their house usually included me walking around with my camera taking photos of all the beautiful blooms and views. 

They both love to garden, and they are both good at it.  They take the time to learn the plants, the soil, the exact conditions needed to grow their tomatoes, snap peas, figs, cucumbers, zucchini and peppers. Every year they had enough to eat, share and store for the winter.  We are fortunate enough to be on the receiving end of their bounty and we most appreciate, and enjoy, their efforts. 

As beautiful as the the outside of the home is, it is the inside where you feel the true love.  As soon as you walk in the front door, you feel at home. We've been to their home more times than I can count, and each and every time, we are greeted with hugs from Gary and Carol.  The very first step into their home fills you with love and welcomes you. 

And then you smell something wonderful cooking.  Both Carol and Gary love to cook, and they are good at it.  Whatever they are baking, you can almost guarantee that it contains something that they grew in their garden.  Carol and I are both vegetarians, and Carol attends to our portion of the meal.  Gary takes care of Bill - he usually has a steak or burgers ready to go out on the grill. 

As you walk further into their home, and into their kitchen, you see the dining table all laid out with the best of everything:  napkins, glassware, silver and china.  Carol has many beautiful pieces from her family and she is a master at using them.  Every detail has been attended to, and is perfect. 

We spend a lot of time outside on their back porch.  We are so comfortable and content in each other's company and we relax, tell stories, and eat.  We sit, drink wine and beer and snack while we watch Missy and Sammy chase each other around the back yard.  We feel so at ease with each other, it has become a treasured friendship. It's such a perfect spot, their back yard, their home, and it is because they created this heaven.  They put a lot of thought into making it comfortable, not only for their use, but for their guests as well.  

Carol is a gem.  She has become such a dear and close friend not only to me, but to Bill and Missy too.  She has never come to our house without a toy for Missy.  Missy remembers things like that! Missy adores Carol and Carol adores Missy.  

Carol is the perfect match for Gary.  She is strong, yet gentle and she completes Gary in ways that make them both whole. Gary has softened and slowed down in the years with Carol.  To be in the company of them both is to know that they share a deep love and a deep friendship. 

Because of COVID, most of the shows that Carol and Gary had scheduled were cancelled.  That left them with a lot of toys.  A contact at Shriner's Children's Hospital arranged to have all of the toys delivered to the children just in time for a Christmas party that they were having for the children.  To have all this fall into place, and for all the children to have a new handmade toy created by Gary - I can think of no greater gift.  

First glance and you think you have Gary figured out.  Tall, bearded man.  Dressed in flannels and jeans with a Miller Light in his hand.  But you have to look closer or else you could miss the details.  The love that he found in Carol and his life in Lyman, his delight in creating and sharing his work, his garden, his home. 

Unlike his toys, Gary is not "polished around the edges" but make no mistake, he is suited and content with his edges.  It's the edges after all that help make up the person, that make up the man that he is.  It's when you get past the edges that you glimpse the man.  Go beyond the edges and you are rewarded with a kind heart, a dear friend and a good man.  Gary you are loved. 



Thursday, December 17, 2020

Things We Keep - Jinny

This is Jinny.  I received her as a gift for my first Christmas when I was five months old. This year Jinny will be 58 years old. 

I was told that when Jinny was new, she was covered in a soft velvety material and she had white plush fuzzy 'fur' around her face.  The only remnants of the velvety material is right behind her legs, where it hasn't worn off.  The white fur is long gone and the material worn thin. I have to keep Jinny under glass to lessen the further deterioration of the brittle fabric.  

Why did I keep Jinny for all these years?  She is not particularly cute, nor cuddly.  In fact, as Bill has pointed out, she is a bit scary.  "It's the plastic face" he says.  He's right of course, she is not a "sweet" doll.  

I'm not even sure that she was sweet when she was new, but yet I kept her.  Every single seam on Jinny has been repaired.  And her face has remnants of markers - thanks to my older sister Cathy, but yet I kept her. For more than 50 years. 

I don't remember carrying Jinny around everywhere I went.  I also don't recall tea parties with her and my other dolls either.  I really don't have any special memories of Jinny except for one.  It was when I around 5 or 6, I was crying at the side of my mom while she repaired Jinny with a needle and thread.  I have that proof of my love for Jinny, and of my mom's love for her child who wouldn't go to sleep without Jinny.  

Jinny is the oldest thing I own that belongs to me.  Through 11 household moves, Jinny has stayed with me.  While I have a difficult time connecting feelings of love to her, I have an easy time applying sentimental feelings for her.  Jinny has made it with me for 58 years, she deserves to be preserved for the next 50 years. 

In my house I have many items that have no direct connection to me.  I pick things up at estate sales, flea markets and auctions.  Other people's belongings - other people's memories.  I have their photos, their diaries, their autograph books from grade school and their Christmas cards.  I have their embroidered linens, quilts, their leather luggage and their china tea cups.  So many treasures that belonged to someone else have found their way into my home.  

I see these items at estates and it hurts my heart to think that there was no one in the family that wanted these 3rd grade report cards, these quilts, these photos.  I feel bad and I take them home.  Someday, when relatives are going through my belongings, they will hold up an item and ask "Is this something?".  Someone will inspect it further and say "Doesn't look familiar" and it will get added to the 'Yard Sale' pile.  

Perhaps they linger longer over my scrapbooks and pause to turn the pages.  They will see all the silly Calvin & Hobbes comic strips, the poignant quotes and the pictures from magazines that brought me joy.  They turn a few more pages, and find a locket of red hair from my niece Kelsey's first haircut, a picture my now 47 year old brother Bernie drew when he was 6, and a birthday card Bill's oldest granddaughter Rebecca drew when she was 8.  Six large scrapbooks full of delightful little nuggets of joy that have no monetary value but which mean the world to me.  

And then they find Jinny.  They will see that she was kept under glass and someone will say "This, this here must be a real treasure".  






Sunday, December 13, 2020

Dogs in Cars

Dogs in cars.

Bird nests.

Sweet pink diaries with little keys.

Clean sheets hung on the laundry line.

A gentleman tipping his hat.

Starting a new book.

Skeleton keys.

Handmade quilts.

Sharpening a pencil with a hand cranked sharpener.

Big fat blueberries.

Baby toes.

Homemade peach ice cream.

Families dressed for church.

Kind Phlebotomists.

Smiles that reach the eyes.

The morning sky.

Hummingbirds.

A music box with a twirling ballerina.

Heartfelt compliments.

Gospel choirs.

American Flags.

Baby shoes.

Small towns.

Children's giggles.

Libraries.

Grilled cheese at a 24-hour diner.

Sunrises in Key West.

Making someone laugh.

Kindness.

A wave from the front porch.

Double rainbows.

Helping someone in need.

Sunlight through stained glass windows.

Saying "thank-you".

Beautiful penmanship.

Marching bands.

When someone tells you are good at something you love doing.

Naps on a Sunday afternoon.

Plaid flannel shirts.

New paint brushes.

Dimly lit rooms with candles flickering.

Church bells.

The first night back in your own bed.

Glass door knobs.

When a young child draws you a picture.

Sharing a smile with a stranger.

The sound of rain on the car roof.

When you call someone and they say "I was just thinking about you".

Comfortable silence between friends.

So many delightful pleasures to discover each and every day.  Wishing you a day full of your own pleasures.
















Thursday, December 3, 2020

Emil Harenberg

My friend Emil passed away Sunday morning.  He had been at the Veteran's home since September 15th and his health had been failing. It was expected, but it still breaks my heart. He was a good man.  And he was a dear friend. 

There were so many ways and so many things that he did that made him such a special friend.  I've shared Emil here in the past, but I would like to share more with you and I appreciate you reading my treasured stories and memories of my friend. 

Emil and his wife Ann moved into Bushfork in December of 2018. They were here only a week or so when Ann died unexpectedly.  I had met them both at an Open House Holiday party and it was such a tragedy that she passed so soon and so suddenly after moving up here from Florida. 

It was shortly after that when I started bringing Emil's newspaper to his front door. I was out early every morning, it was December and I wanted to save him the trip to the street to get his paper.  This went on for about 3 months or so, I never saw him, but I continued to bring his paper to his front door.  

One day I was out with Missy and I saw Emil coming out to his mailbox.  I introduced myself and after talking with him a bit, I told him that I was the one that has been bringing his newspaper up to his door. He was quite surprised that it was me because he thought it was the paper carrier doing that. He told me he was giving the carrier extra tips for this "service".  We both got a laugh out of that!  I told him that Missy and I are out often, and if he ever needed anything, to please let us know.  He very kindly told me that he keeps to himself, and thank you, but he didn't anticipate needing anything. I said okay and said good-bye. 

The next day I left some homemade cookies at his front door with his newspaper.  I also left my phone number with him.  I can be stubborn like that sometimes.

The next time I saw him, he thanked me for the cookies and said that they were good but he preferred chocolate chips cookies without nuts.  And, so our friendship was born, born from newspapers and chocolate chip cookies.  

Over the next two years, Missy and I spent a lot of time with Emil. Most of which was spent sitting on his front porch. We would get up early, before it got too hot, and wave to the neighbors as they drove by to go to work. He loved that. He loved that everyone was so friendly and waved back to us.  

Sometimes his son Richard would join us on the porch. One morning, in early spring, we were watching one of the small trees in his front yard.  Birds had built a nest in it and we could hear the babies peeping.  We spent a lot of time watching the activity of the birds flying into the tree with food to the baby birds.  One morning, we saw a baby bird take their first flight.  We all just looked at each other in amazement!  While we were still watching, a second bird emerged from the nest.  This little one didn't fare so well. He flew out of the nest and 'smack' flew right into the front of Richard's car. We all gasped, but this little bird got up and flew away.  We talked about this miracle of nature all summer. And about that tough little bird!  I have the little nest in my house now. 

Emil had bird feeders in the backyard and we both enjoyed watching the hummingbirds' feed.  One day he called me and told me that he had some pictures that he wanted to show me.  With his film camera, he took pictures of the hummingbirds and went to Walgreens and had them developed. I know how hard it can be to capture hummingbirds, and I also know how hard it was for Emil to move, so I wasn't sure how the pictures would turn out.  But he showed me the pictures and he got some good ones!  He was so proud of himself and I was proud of him too! 

On the porch, Emil always had a cup of coffee and drank it out of his Marine Corp or Denny's mug.  He bought the Denny's mug at their store and he liked it because it kept his coffee hot.  He also really liked eating at Denny's because they made his eggs just the way he liked them. And, more importantly, because they were so friendly there.  Those things mattered to him.  The waitress was always kind and refilled his cup of coffee even before he knew it needed refilling.  He appreciated and recognized kindness in people. 

Over the summer Emil gave me an angel figurine to thank me for being his friend. He told me that he also gave one to the woman at the insurance company that he has done business with for many years.  He said that he always talks to this one agent, and though they never met, she was always so helpful and kind and he wanted to thank her.  He sent her an angel to thank her for her kindness through the years. 

He appreciated people and it's why he would bring out a cold Pepsi to Leigh, our Mail Carrier, in the summer.  He would hear her truck go up the street and he knew that he had just enough time to get to his refrigerator and out to the driveway before she got to his house. Leigh became Emil's friend, one Pepsi at a time. 

When Emil was at Spartanburg Regional Hospital, first in the ICU wing, and then later in the hospital, he got to know all the staff that took care of him.  He was so appreciative of their care and couldn't get over how kind everyone was.  I would go to visit him almost every day and he always had a story about the gal who came in to clear his breakfast tray, or the man who cleaned up the room. He liked people and people liked him.  

It was because of Emil that I started donating cards to the SRH.  He wanted to give back to them because they were so kind to him.  The day that the two of us went to SRH to donate my cards is one of my fondest memories of Emil.  He was still recovering and tired easily, but he loved being able to visit with Jill Dugaw and thank her personally. 

While he was in the hospital he asked Richard to bring in some stained-glass night lights that he made.  Emil wanted to give them to some of the hospital staff because they took extra good care of him.  There was one woman whom he really liked.  He said she was young when her family came here from another country and she put herself through school to be a nurse.  He liked and admired that and he wanted to be sure to give her a stained glass piece. 

Emil was an extraordinary talented artist with stained-glass.  When I first met him, he brought out a book that he kept pictures in of all the big pieces he made.  Picture after picture was of beautiful and intricate stained-glass pieces. He said that he doesn't do the big pieces anymore, but he still works on little nightlights when he can.  I have two nightlights in my home and they are little works of art. 


I also have this custom piece that Emil made for me.  I brought him a pastel drawing that I've had forever - I loved how whimsical it was. I showed it to Emil and asked him if he could make it into a stained-glass piece for me.  He was a bit hesitant at first because his hands were shaky, but he got to work on it.  When he showed me the finished piece, I hugged him.  It's perfect!  I hang it proudly in my studio. 

Emil was a gifted woodworker as well and I saw lots of examples of his work in his photo albums too. He made many pieces for his children and grandchildren over the years. I could tell from the pictures that he put a lot of time into his pieces and that it was something he was proud of.  He had every right to be. 

I asked him if he could teach me how to work with glass because I had a few ideas for projects that I wanted to try.  We got a few lessons in, but it was either too hot or too cold in the garage, or something else came up that kept us from the lessons. Working with glass is time consuming, exact, very involved and messy. The soldering of the pieces is also very detailed and one that is mastered with practice.  I looked at some of his earlier pieces and the solder was smooth and clean. He was a master for sure. I admit that part of my hesitation was that I could never be that good at something. 

Emil was the kind of friend who walked you to the door whenever you left his house.  And he always stood in the doorway to watch you leave.  This is such a small little thing, but it always made me appreciate him more. My mom does the same thing and I do it too. I don't want anyone to leave my house without walking them out.  I figure that if I know them well enough to have them in my home, I'm pretty sure that I'm sad to see them leave as well. 

One time when I was having a sciatic flare-up, Emil bought me two different kinds of Tylenol to help me. He hated that I was in pain and he wanted to help me. This small gesture was typical Emil and his kindness touched me. 

Emil had a flag pole in his front yard and he proudly flew both the American and the 
Marine Corp flag.  He was a proud American and a proud Marine.  He would always comment on how much he enjoyed seeing all the homes on his street that flew the American flag.  Emil did not have an easy life and he served in both the WWII and the Korean War, but he never complained about it. He did it because that is what men of his generation did. But he deeply appreciated when other people loved his country too. 

Emil had a tremendous sweet tooth!  He had a dish with chocolate in the living room that I always made sure was full. If someone loved chocolate as much as I did, that dish would never show bottom.  He kept the Milky Way's in the refrigerator though because he liked them cold. His wife liked them too. Emil said he liked that they were nothing fancy, just the right blend of chocolate and caramel. His son bought him pastry, muffins and cake from Costco and he ate them for breakfast. He was 93 years old and you couldn't tell him it was bad for him. 

Some of my best memories of Emil are of seeing him and Missy together.  Missy thinks Emil hung the moon and scattered the stars.  She adored Emil and Emil adored Missy.  We spent time together doing other things, but the best memories are of the three of us sitting on his porch.  

Emil lived down the hill from us and whenever we turned the corner to get on his street, I had to let Missy go or else, I do believe, she would have dragged me across the yard to get to him. If she heard or saw Emil, it was all over, I had to let her go.

Emil bought treats for Missy and he always kept them in the breast pocket of his shirt.  Missy knew they were there and she sat staring at Emil, then his pocket, then Emil, then his pocket. He always saved one piece for "Bye-bye" and it drove Missy NUTS!  She loved visiting with Emil, but she wanted that bye-bye treat NOW!  As you can see, Missy is anything but subtle! 

Emil often shared  his leftovers with Missy.  A  little  bit of chicken or some turkey pieces.  One day he called me and asked me if it was okay for Missy to have shrimp. He had gotten a meal and there was some breaded shrimp in it.  He couldn't eat it all and wanted to share it with Missy.  I told him that I thought it would be okay, but maybe take off some of the breading.  The next morning Emil brings out the shrimp.  They were the mini, baby shrimps. I was expecting large pieces, but no, my dear friend took off all the breading of these mini shrimps to share with Missy.  That's the kind of friend he was. 

Emil decided one day that he was going to teach Missy tricks.  Oh how I laughed!  Missy is smart and she is a sweet dog no doubt, but Missy doesn't do anything that she doesn't want to do. But Emil believed in Missy and began the lessons.   

He taught her how to give her paw first.  Day after day, Emil worked with Missy.  Each time he coaxed her and he rewarded her with a treat. Sure enough, after a short while, Missy did it all by herself!  We both got to whooping it up real good!  Emil wasn't done though, next he got to work on teaching her to give her other paw.  He rewarded her achievements, but he knew she could do more.  He wasn't done with Missy. 

Once Missy mastered the paws, he began to teach her to "wait".  Wait required will-power and Missy, as I've shared, is not a "will-power" kind of dog.  Missy is all about now-power. This was hard, but little by little Emil worked with her and each time she extended her wait time.  That last morning we were at Emil's house, he gave Missy her final lesson and she mastered "Wait".  We were so proud of our Missy and I was so proud of Emil.  He did it!  He taught Missy "will-power".

Emil was so proud of Missy!  He just adored her and always asked how she was doing with her lessons.  When he was in the hospital, I brought in a picture of Missy for him to put up so he could see her everyday.  He got to talking to all the nurses and the staff about Missy.  One day when I was there he told me that he talked to one of the staff about Missy and she told him that if I called her a "therapy dog" we might can get her in there to see him.  I loved that he missed her that much, but we both agreed that Missy would never make it past the front lobby, what with her stopping at everyone she sees to get a belly rub and all. 

Back when I was on Facebook, I wrote a post about meeting Emil and I let him read it.  He was very quiet as he read, and when he was done he said "You wrote all those nice things about me?" Yes Emil, I did. He couldn't get over it. 

Another time, Emil asked me why I was his friend.  That was an easy question.  I told him that he was my friend because he cared about me and about the people that I cared about.  He was very kind to me, and to others, and I appreciated that. He listened and he said "Yeah?" I said "Yeah".  

Emil was proud of me and he loved my cards. He sent them out to people he knew and he once told me that they were "a lot better than any card you could buy".  I know he would have been tickled to see me on TV and he would have told me he was proud of me, he knew how important this was to me, and that I did good. In a time when people are so caught up in their own lives and barely have time to recognize or appreciate others, I will miss this about Emil.  He always had a kind word or gesture for me and for others.  I have many flaws, but I know of one thing that I was good at; I was good at being Emil's friend. But in all honesty, he made it easy. 

Emil, my dear, dear friend, thank you, I love you and rest easy in eternal peace.

Saturday, November 28, 2020

"Delivering Happiness...."


About two months ago I saw a story on the news about a woman who was unable to see her 'Memaw' because of COVID-19. I thought the story was sad and touching.  And then she said that she sends her Memaw a card every day to keep in touch. And I said "That's sad, but I do believe I can help her"  While the story wasn't about her needing cards, I just had to send her cards to use.

I contacted the reporter, Melanie Palmer, to see if she could put me in contact with the woman and I explained why.  Melanie gave me her email address and because as I soon learned, and you will too, she is absolutely amazing, she said "So, tell me more about your cards." 

Melanie loved the idea of me donating cards, and after a phone conversation in which I gave her more details about my donations, she went about pitching the idea to the editors. 

Well, then school started, and then it was Halloween, then it was the elections; there always was something to put on the news that took priority.  And that's fine with me. I know how it works, there is always news to report.  What I didn't know is that I had a cheerleader who had my back.  Someone who absolutely and whole heartedly believed in the story.  And in me.  I had Melanie. 

Melanie sent me a note this week and said that they were going to do a story about COVID, the holidays and the hardships it brings and that the editors okayed 'the card story'. 

I immediately started a diet, I had 15 pounds to lose in 2 days, and then I cleaned my studio.  Ahhh, the studio.  I am right in the middle of making cloth bags for gifts and the studio was a mess.  Not a little mess.  It was a BIG mess.  That's how it is when I am working on a project; I do lots of them at once and whatever I am working on takes over every surface and corner.  Sooo, I cleaned and packed away the fabric, the patterns, the ironing board and the sewing machine.  It was hard work as was evident from the .004 pounds I surly lost.

Next came out the card making supplies and samples. I had the cards that are going to Spartanburg Regional Hospital and I stamped a few to work on while they were filming. That wasn't a big weigh loss, only .00001 pounds or so.  It probably would have been more if I didn't eat 8 mini Mr. Goodbars during the process.  However, now that I think about it.....well, I don't want to think about it. 

Melanie sent me a note and said that her and the camera man, Kevin, will be at the house at 4:30 pm on Wednesday.  Great!  We'll be here.  Oh, but please excuse the mess.  Bill was tiling the kitchen backsplash and my stove was in my living room. 

So they arrived and Missy was off the walls. Two people! Two people in her house!  Two people in her house to rub her belly and scratch her ears!  She couldn't contain herself.  Missy just loves people, and luckily, because she really is a sweet dog, people love Missy. So, after about twenty minutes of loving on Missy, we went into my studio to do the story. 

Melanie and Kevin were awesome!  They asked great questions and were so involved in this whole card making and donating mission of mine. Missy came in often for some Melanie lovin'.  I do believe that Missy thought they were there just to see her.  

After about three hours they started to pack up their things to go.  But wait, I had gifts to give.  I had a box of handmade items to give Melanie and told her to pick out a bag to put them all in.  And as further proof of her fabulousness, she picked a dog bag!  See I told you!  I gathered about 50 cards to give to Kevin to bring home to his wife, but wait, I needed to give him a bag to put them in. He picked out a bag that he thought his wife would like, although he admitted that it may be used as a diaper bag if that was okay.  I reassured him that it would be just fine.  And they are washable, so it's all good.  

Hugs, and belly rubs all around and they left.  Missy and I watched them leave from the door.  You do that when you hate to see friends leave, but know that they must.  

Here is the video and article that was featured on WSPA Channel 7.  Thanks for watching.  And extra thanks if you notice how completely waif-like I appear.  








Sunday, November 22, 2020

Mornings

Morning. I just adore the word:  Morning. 

I have always been drawn to, refreshed by and renewed by new mornings. 

I love the sky in the morning and I love the smell and the feeling in the air. I love everything about being up early and seeing the start of a new day. 

So many of you reached out to me about my last blog "It's Okay to Quit" and this blog goes along with that and I hope it speaks to you as well.  

I removed myself from a situation that was absolutely toxic and harmful to my being and my soul.  It was merely a season and a night in my life, and I welcomed and embraced the morning that followed. And you can too.  

I encourage you all to look to the morning. When you are in a dark season or time in you life, look to the morning.  Look for the new beginning.  It's an opportunity to renew and nourish your soul.  

If you know anything about Key West, you probably know about the evening parties that are held at Mallory Square.  Every night in Key West they celebrate the glorious sunsets. How fabulous is that!!  Hundreds of people gather each night to witness the sun drop off into the Gulf of Mexico.  While I appreciate the great photo and people watching opportunities, I much more prefer the sunrise over the Atlantic. 

Every morning while in Key West, I get out of bed before sunrise and walk to the Atlantic Ocean side of the island and watch the sunrise.  There are no crowds, street performers or musicians when the sun rises.  And that precisely is the reason why it appeals to me. The atmosphere is serene, appreciated and quietly celebrated by the few that are up early to witness the glorious start of the day. 

These photos bring me joy and peace.  And I hope they bring you joy and peace too. 







 




Wednesday, November 18, 2020

It's Okay to Quit

 


"When you feel like quitting, remember why you started" 

"Quitters never win and winners never quit"

"Push through the pain"

These quotes and others like them can have you feeling like you are a failure if you quit.  It's not true.  There should be no shame in quitting. 

Sometimes it takes more courage, more strength and more self-preservation to choose to remove yourself from a bad situation.  

When you remove yourself from a negative environment, you are taking care of yourself.  It is your life and you are in control of it.  You shouldn't be afraid or ashamed of looking out for yourself. 

Don't allow anyone to tell you different. You absolutely have the right and the responsibility to protect yourself.  You make that call. Not someone else. No person, athlete or corporate CEO has the right to tell you what you should feel or what you should do with your life.

When you choose to take yourself 'out of the game' it is because you know, respect and like yourself too much to allow yourself to continue to be in an unhealthy situation.  And unhealthy is what you determine, it is not based on someone's else's perception. 

You don't have an "obligation" to stay in a situation that is negative, harmful, abusive or soul draining.  You don't. 

It's okay to quit. Really. 

Saturday, October 31, 2020

Sweet Dogs I Love III


It's the first day of the month!  The latest in "Sweet Dogs I Love"

Lyla


Jax


Rueben


Misty

Molly

Sherman

Molly

Reagan

Dudley


Angel

Gypsy


Luna

Missy Alden